Dear Mary
Guilt Trips

Yesterday I had Christmas with my Dad and my grandmother in her seniors home.  It was a nice visit but both my Dad and grandmother spent most of the visit nagging me about how I never come to visit my grandmother.  I should visit more often, call and bring the kids around more.  I heard this for hours.  I live about a 45 minute ride from my grandmother, and saw her back in August.  I guess I could visit more but I am busy.  That does not seem to be as visiting too infrequently. – but they do.

In a couple of days from now, we do the same visit but with my mother-in-law.  It will take us about two hours to drive there.  In my mind I can hear all the similar nagging on this upcoming visit.  I am sure driving home; I will re-play all the negative comments about not visiting, calling etc.  You get the picture.  I really do not think that it is fair that everyone dumps on me about visiting.  What should I do?

Sue